Why I’m Glad I Was Able To Stop Being “Anti-Girly Girl”

There are so many things in my life that remind me of my childhood – which may be deliberate, since I am still a Big Kid™ in most aspects of my life (Thanks, Dad!) I was looking into buying some retro consoles, which got me thinking about my old NES and Sega Genesis. Then my mind started wandering to other memories and how I ended up the person I am right now. That’s a vague and vast topic for one blog post, but one portion stuck out to me.

My early childhood was predominately 90s. Which, I have to say, was an awesome time to be a kid. We had the Disney Renaissance, the best toys, and those video games I want to play again! My parents divorced when I was really young and I ended up living most of the time with my dad – he didn’t grow up with girls, so he couldn’t help but influence me to like the sort of “boy things” he had as a kid. I do still remember the bright blue and pink aisles at Toys R Us, as well as lots of toy commercials with only boys or only girls, but honestly? My interests were pretty balanced in “gendered” topics. I loved glittery pink pegasus toys and I also really loved Mortal Kombat. I really wanted to be a mermaid or a faerie, but I also wanted to swordfight. I have zero memory of being told what or what not to like as a kid. 

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Reviving Your Passions After Surviving Your Late 20s

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2016 has been a weird year. Just about everyone I know has been in some sort of a funk – they are overworked, underpaid, still haven’t found the right opportunity to start working on their dream project. Life has been throwing way more obstacles than predicted. A lot of the sparkle and wonder we had in our early 20s is now hard to hold onto.

Being a 20something is completely different now than it was for our parents. I’m almost done with my 20s and felt for a long time that I failed to do anything worthwhile because I was not on the timeline I imagined I would be. I felt like I was still stuck in the “late teen” stage of my story. My 20s weren’t a complete waste – I graduated college, reached a weight/fitness goal, fell in love, chased after dreams that didn’t succeed (but at least I tried!). I don’t know about everyone else, but I always thought by my late 20s I would be settled. I would have found whatever it was I was meant to do. My life would be set, the work would be over, and everything would be easy.

And then it wasn’t. And I was bummed out that nothing was going “to plan” for a while. A lot of things I wanted to happen didn’t.

Then, something amazing happened a few weeks ago. I stopped caring about timelines. And got started getting back on my feet.

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What To Say (And Not To Say) To Artists

For as long as I can remember, I have always been the “art friend”. The one in the circle that was just “really really good” as drawing. It became my role during my teenage years, and that’s what I was associated with, being the girl that wanted to work for Disney, that could help you out if you ever wanted a drawing. And I totally don’t deny any of that – I have a lot of creative energy and I like making things and having ideas. But now that I’m in my late 20s, I feel wiser about all the things I’ve endured, especially now that the internet is so accessible, and having an artistic presence online via fandoms, fanart and webcomics is so easy to do.

However, there is a downside to all this – I’ve learned very quickly that non-artists do not know how to critique. Hell, many of them don’t know how to even comment in a polite manner. The anonymity of the internet, where you can hide behind a username and icon, makes it easy for people to say whatever they want about art under the classic excuse of “just expressing my opinion.” And while most of the time people are not trying to be rude, they word things in a way that could have been said better. I’ve seen too many people that 1. Say whatever they want for the sake of being rude or 2. Give “suggestions” that imply they are not trained in art and don’t know what they’re talking about, which is not helpful to the artist at all.

Artists don’t grow if they keep their works private, and sharing with others is inevitable. But there are ways to better phrase what you’re trying to say, even if you mean no harm about it. Trust me, I’ve heard it all, and I felt it was time to set things straight.

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Adopting Healthy Habits While Staying Mentally Happy

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Geez, what a week! Sometimes I don’t have a particularly “busy week”, but I’m still forgetting what year it is by the time the work week is over. This has been a rather lazy Saturday for me (Thank God!) and I’m finally able to start getting some more blog posts ready.

Since this is a new blog and many of you might not know me yet – a few years ago, I changed my bad lifestyle habits and fell in love with working out and being healthy (you can read the whole story here!) I showed off my Before/After progress and a lot of people online asked all the questions I once asked – how did you do it? What did you eat? How can I do it? And I’ve been wanting to detail everything I did in order to help others on their journey, but there’s one aspect I want to start out with before I get into workout schedules and calorie plans. Remaining mentally healthy while you start out. 

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Juggling Your Post-College Hobbies

Hold on to your planner, you're (still) going to need it.

Hold on to your planner, you’re (still) going to need it.

It’s been one year since I finally graduated college, after years of taking off semesters to raise money for said semesters (I really wanted to avoid loans, y’know?), finally figuring out what I wanted to study and way too many transfers. I didn’t mean to stay in college as long as I did, but it’s over now! I love making projects, it’s a part of being an only child – you know how to keep yourself entertained. But good grades were my top priority and I was still mastering the ancient art of time management. At the end of the day, I felt guilty working on anything that wasn’t school. I missed out on a lot of video games and comic reading while in college, because I was paranoid that I would make a grade I didn’t want because I didn’t study that extra hour.

Point is, I saw the light at the end of the tunnel by daydreaming about all the things I would do when I didn’t have lab reports and papers to read, when I had a Big Kid job and totally free weekends. Without exams looming over my head, it was a much needed breath of fresh air the first few months after graduation. I already had my job that I couldn’t bring home with me, so I suddenly had a lot of free time. So I got started on those projects. And over the years, the lists of dreams was a lot bigger than I thought. 2015 was the busiest year of my life because I had so many hobbies to catch up on and I tried to do it all at once.

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